Filing for a divorce is one of the most difficult things that a couple can do. It means you failed at something, even if you still part as friends. Many people have some misconceptions about divorce, but even the best situations can be filled with all sorts of issues. Here are five things you should know before you head to divorce court.
1. All Divorces Aren’t Over in Six Months
The time frame that is set for a standard divorce of six months doesn’t always apply to every case. The more complex the case and the more fighting about assets there are; the longer the case will take to resolve.
2. Things Can Get Really Nasty
Even if you are trying to part on equitable terms, even the best people can get really nasty when their money and possessions are involved. Be prepared for a fight. Never let your guard down to the other party, even for one minute. Sure, they once loved you, but a divorce can be war.
3. You Need An Attorney
While you think that you can do the process on your own and save a ton of money, you need a lawyer to represent your best interests. Sure, if you have no assets, no children, and nothing really out of the ordinary it might work. But, there are few cases that don’t need an attorney to help out.
4. You Won’t Always Get Your Way
When it comes to splitting assets and trying to decide custody of the children, know up front that there must be some give and take. You are not always going to get what you want out of the deal. You must keep an open mind and learn to have some give and take in the situation. The more you buck against the other party the longer it will drag out the process. Also, the longer you drag out the process the more it will cost you in legal fees and court costs.
5. This Will Be The Hardest Thing You Do In Your Life
Even if you are sure you are not in love anymore and you are ready to move on, this is going to be the hardest thing you ever do in your life. There are times when you are going to cry yourself to sleep and feel sad over the loss of the relationship. The best thing to do is move on and try not to cry over the love lost. Remember all the things that brought you to the divorce court in the first place.
Before spending the time and energy for a divorce, make sure you feel 100 percent that there is no other way to make this work. If you are sure, hire an attorney and let them do all the work for you.